Death is…

Death is…

Death is not something I speak on often. I hurt for individuals that lose their loves ones. I don’t understand death the way some others do. To me it’s not a punishment or reward. We are literally all here for a short time and we have to make the best of it. There is no way I can think about me losing a love one and not feel sadness. I feel like we are not ready for death, even when we see it coming. Death is not about us and should not stop our lives on earth. I know how dead you can feel on the inside when you feel like a part of you died, but I am too a part of you. So when I hurt do you feel it? We are connected not simply those that we had in our lives but to everyone. Death of one person can bring about a change in many others. Death, as weird as it sounds can be inspiring. Maybe someone who passed away encouraged you to write the book you had in mind, but you were afraid. With them being gone does it not feel like you should stop wasting your time. Maybe, just maybe the person you lost was only put here to spark something in you. I love all the individuals placed in my life, but I have no say so in how long they get to stay. I will give my love the best way I know how and except theirs. My heart goes out to all those hurting because no one love is the same. Love freely. Love daily. Love amazingly.

Authoritarian and Authoritative Parenting

Authoritarian and Authoritative Parenting

How you parent is so important to discuss because your partner may not agree or feel comfortable with your style. Me and my husband are totally different. This could be a major problem if we did not communicate and compromise well. I am always thinking about how they feel and want them to know their feelings matter, on the other hand my husband does not see the need to explain himself. I totally get that because how I grew up no adult was explaining anything, you just do what you are told. Sometimes he has to step in because my explaining why rules are rules and such seem like arguing with a child. I understand that it is not and they don’t mean to talk back but it gets frustrating. I think it’s a good balance of listen to your parents because they love you and hurry up and do what you are told. Some situations I allow him to handle and others I take control. We both know our boundaries so worse don’t step on each others toes. How ever you parent be mindful that you are helping to form who your children will become and how they parent themselves. Also respect your partner by being understanding and talking about behaviors that are healthy and those you feel like are not. What are you and your partners parenting styles? Do they work well together? Can you make them work?

So my littlest little is headed to big boy school… Rewind

Why the hell do I talk like that to everyone now. Big boy school? This has to be annoying to people who don’t have toddlers. I’m telling you they have more influence than anyone else in your life. This little boy has me dancing around the house, making sure I mimick his dance moves because I don’t want to be out. We go to the gym right after work because he wants to play after school and he obviously runs my life. Somebody save me! Send help. I’m losing to a four year old and I think he’s adorable so I keep giving in. Anyone else have this problem? I know I’m not alone. Well point is he won’t be little to much longer and I’m sad, because who will play with me then? 😭